One of the great paradoxes seen in the philosophies of all of the ancient ones is that they give totally, but have no time for takers. This is important to understand, because when we allow people to take from us, we become drained of our energy, close our hearts and stop giving. This is a very negative state to be in, as when our hearts are closed the life force stops flowing and we are closed off from life.

The trick to being complete is to balance love with will. The two forces become separated in childhood, when we learn that love says yes and will says no. Will is necessary to give direction and definition to our love, without will our love doesn't go anywhere. It is worthless if we love everybody but don't do anything for anyone.

Will is the part which states "right now I'm loving this person in this particular way". When you possess a strong will, you will have clear boundaries, and you decide how you want to give; no one can manipulate you or tell you what to do against your will. When you can say no to the takers, you find you have far more to give, and life flows through you once again.

When people come to healing ceremonies, everyone wants to receive healing, but it is those who give the most that benefit the most. When you give you open yourself to receive from the universal life force. You are therefore not dependent just on the other people for your healing.

If someone doesn't seem to be putting much energy into you, it is they who lack, not you. So long as you put your best into the healing, you can receive miracles. You should come with the attitude of seeing how much you can give, rather than how much you are going to get. When you really understand the value of giving, you will do everything you can to give as much as possible.

Giving is an attitude that can be brought into every area of life; in healing it means giving as much of yourself as you can, not seeing if you can get by giving less. You can enter a relationship considering what you can give to it rather than what you are going to get out of it. This includes the relationship with your Higher Self.

You can give to your spirituality, and your efforts will be returned multiplied. The greatest giving is when you give from your strengths, and those strengths expand. If you really want to grow fast and transform miraculously, the answer is to give of yourself as much as you can. This is all the more important for those who think they have nothing to give.